Slut, Skank, Whore

"I used to really like Rihanna, you know before she wore clothes that hid nothing but her vajayjay (yes, vajayjay) and posted pics that were G rated?" My friend Grace (picture light blonde hair, blue eyes, mildly  conservative views) expressed on our way to class. "So basically before she became a slut". I cringed when I heard that word. It has always been so harsh and always such a bad thing. But I've never really processed the definition, I've always just thought of it as an insult and accepted it. But now I've decided to question it. So according to the 'Free Dictionary', which is reliable enough when compared to 'urban dictionary', a slut is "a person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous". So the average conservative person would nod their head and say "yeah hence the nature of the insult", but why is being 'sexually promiscuous' considered such a terrible and unforgivable thing and why is it so easy to accept that?

Being called a player (basically the male version of slut) is usually used as a term of endearment, even as a point of attraction but as soon as you add 'fe' to male it's disgusting and shameful. Now I am totally being hypocritical right now, as I have fallen slave to unfairly judging people and making assumptions as to how many guys a particular girl has slept with based on the length or (shortness should I say) of their skirt and how low their neck line is but I have decided to make changes to the way I see people. You quite obviously shouldn't judge someone based on what they are wearing or what they look like but I've decided to question this even further. Why have we as a society decided that having a lot of sex is bad? Why have we as a society decided that the naked female body, the body that half the world's population has, is something that we have been urged not to show? Why have we sexualized normality? Why have we sexualized sex itself? Neither the human body nor sex has to be 'sexy'.

The morals of society, the stuff that's supposed to be ethical, acceptable and right, has changed things that are completely normal and completely natural into something that should be hushed and never spoken about. This has had an opposite effect and turned women and our bodies into sexual objects of desire purely because we are not morally (nor lawfully) allowed to show them uncovered. This has turned sex or the reproduction of human beings (you know, that thing that allows our race to live on) into something despicable and 'unladylike'. We, ourselves, have changed the definition of natural and normal and put it on its head, turning it into the complete antonym of the word.